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What Goes Around, Comes Around

In 1974, after my father retired from the U.S. Navy, he began seminary in Virginia.  One of his classmates, another Navy man, quickly became a good friend.  The two families formed a bond which has continued these past 37 years.  

Mom and Dad used to come home from Wednesday night chapel and say, "Grafton and Elesa have three lovely daughters. We don't care which one you marry, but marry one of them."  Heart Of My Heart's parents would come home from Wednesday night chapel and say, "Well, you could always marry David because you know you'd love your in-laws." 

Well, in 2001 both our fathers who are Episcopal priests co-officiated at our wedding.  We figured that "When God taps you on the shoulder and says, 'There's gonna be a quiz,' you pay attention!"  So we were doing what our parents had asked of us.  It was an arranged marriage, if you will.  

So I have now completed seminary and await a call to active ministry somewhere, somehow in the Episcopal Church.  And with all the pomp and circumstance that comes with Commencement, there's a one little rite of passage for VTS students about to graduate. We traipsed up three stories in Aspinwall, the primary administrative building and signature structure of the Protestant Episcopal Seminary in Virginia (VTS), then climbed several ladders up into the cupola to find the space where students have been leaving their names on the wall for perpetuity.

I had called my father to ask if he'd done this back in 1977, and if so, where I might look for his name.  He had not.  So I agreed to add his name, along with mine, and I added my father-in-law as well.



There we are, gentlemen!  I am so proud to be counted among so many great people, including these two wonderful men whose names bracket mine.  VTS has been a part of our lives for so long.  I am grateful for its centrality in our respective families, and for the purposes it has fostered and continues to develop.